Intentionally sharing narratives can be a very powerful way of presenting ourselves to others and seeing ourselves in new ways. The excerpt I am sharing with you about my friend, Doris, is from the second chapter in my manuscript on how women can refuse to be invisible:
Doris’s Narrative of Empowerment
Doris was 97 when I first met her. She lived in my neighborhood, and I would often see her at the post box in front of her house. She walked with a cane or used a walker at times. At first, I’ll confess that I couldn’t imagine that we’d have anything in common. But over time, Doris and I developed a friendship. I believe Doris was often intentional about what she shared with me; often, her stories were about empowerment as an older woman.
Doris told me that she liked to get on the Internet every morning so that she could learn something new. Then she told me that she liked to work out each morning—doing squats and other exercises to maintain flexibility. (She even demonstrated her exercise routine for me.) She also shared that eating healthy was important to her.
Sometimes Doris and I would debate current topics – her mind was sharp. This former nurse told stories about herself that helped me and others see her as a strong, older woman who deserved respect.
Doris told me about her experiences with ageism—how sometimes people would dismiss her when she was shopping, treat her with indifference or disdain, and even going so far as to push her out of their way. As I had gotten to know Doris, I felt angry that anyone would treat this amazing woman with disregard.
One time, I asked Doris what her secret was for living her best life. She told me that having a positive attitude about aging and about life was essential. She also said that continually learning, giving back to others, and taking care of yourself (a healthy diet and exercise) mattered.
Our Narratives Matter
Although my friend passed less than two years short of her 100th birthday, her life made a lasting impression on me. When I imagine the possibility of living 30 years or more, I can also see that my life could still be rich and full. I am hoping someday that I will be to younger women what Doris was for me—a positive role model and guide for living our best life as we age.
Each of us has the power to choose our own narrative as we get older. Our narratives matter – they help us frame how we see ourselves and how others see us. No one else has the right to diminish who we are as we continue to grow and experience new chapters in our lives.
I feel you need a stronger 1st sentence. It should be something that really pulls the reader into the story. You’re frequent use of the word narrative should change. Explore synonyms or or images that reflect the same word. Good luck.
Concetta,
Good feedback! Thank you! I had pulled this excerpt from a section in a chapter. I agree, it does need a stronger lead sentence.
The strength and determination of a woman aging is beautifully expressed i do admire women who never give up living and loving till the end Bless all strong yet gentle women💕
Thank you for your comments. Doris was such a wonderful role model for me; she helped me see aging in a new light. She was, indeed, a determined and strong woman.